Power of the Ask: How to Make Requests to See Results
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You Have Not Because You Ask Not

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Pride is the biggest deterrent to success in life. Many go through life with the mindset of self-reliance. Moreover, they think that all they need in life is themselves. Not true. Often, it is those who are vulnerable enough to ask for help that actually get what they need to move forward in life. As a life coach, my clients have discovered that the principle of asking is beneficial to both their personal and professional lives. Many of them are now thriving at new levels because they have an understanding that asking is a part of the journey toward success. Below, I’ve provided some benefits of how asking may change the course of your life.

Asking brings the right people. There is always a person who is waiting to help you. Believe it or not, there are people who believe in you and truly desire to see you succeed in life. Though they may not make themselves readily noticeable, they may be closer than you think. Start examining your life to see who has always been a source of support or who is always offering an encouraging word to you.

Asking can give access to mentors. Mentors are signposts and give excellent counsel along your journey. Though they may not necessarily be in the same field or even have the same experiences, there is a wisdom that mentors possess that can be applied to almost any situation.

Asking builds confidence. The more you get into the habit of asking for help, the more sure and confident you become in the thing you’re asking for. Remember, most folks are attracted to the self-assured, and are likely to invest in them.

Asking relieves pressure. If you find yourself in a situation where things seem insurmountable, don’t be afraid to ask for help. You could be working and going to school at the same time, and you need someone to watch the kids for a couple of hours. Ask! This gives you a much needed reprieve.

Yes, in some instances we exhibit super-hero like powers, but we are just human beings along the journey. Never allow your pride to hinder a potential blessing. Don’t suffer in silence.

Remember we have the ability to not only change our world, but the world as a whole. Be great!

Until Next Time, Pervis

Pervis Taylor, III is an author, life coach, speaker, and  contributor. His books Pervis Principles Volumes 1 and 2 are available exclusively on his website: PervisTaylor.com/author. He is the creator of the inspiration/life coaching app, I-Inspire, available for iPhones, iPads, and iPod Touch via PervisTaylor.com/I-Inspire/. He resides in New York City. Follow him @pervistaylor on Twitter and on Facebook.com/pervistaylor3