Technology Simplifies Joint Custody for Divorced Parents

Technology Simplifies Joint Custody for Divorced Parents

CREATE BALANCE IN YOUR LIFE: This is something I’m still working towards. I’ve been an entrepreneur since I was 16 years old, and only in recent years have I started to understand what true balance means. I have a very big family (five siblings, 60+ cousins…) and spending time with them is very important to me. The concerts, recitals, graduations, impromptu card games…all of these moments are important to me, and there’s no business success that can replace these moments. Besides spending time with your family, find special things to help you balance yourself. For me it’s definitely prayer and journaling. When we quiet ourselves, sometimes we’re blessed with brilliant ideas.

Divorces can be messy but when children are involved the situation becomes even more complex. What happens when you have to communicate with the person you may never want to see again? You simply text or email, according to many divorcees.

The New York Times reports that couples with joint custody of their children use technology as a way to create a peaceful correspondence to schedule visits. Communicating remotely allows for minimal face-to-face interaction and awkward or angry phone calls between parents. Some parents are even buying their children cellphones to speak to them without having to go through the other parent.

“When it comes to child arrangements,” Erin McGillivray, the mother of a 2-year-old, said “we typically communicate via e-mail. Schedules, drop-offs, pickups, sick-day care: it’s all done electronically. Neither of us wants to argue in front of our daughter, but as much as we would want to avoid it, it would happen.”

To many people texting or emailing an ex may seem detached and unemotional; something a phone call or an in-person meeting might deliver. But, at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how many texts or emails are exchanged. For many parents it provides a much need way to heal from past hurt without depriving a child access to both parents.

Weigh in: Divorced parents, has technology helped or hurt your interactions with your ex? Your children?